After a transplant, some people really want to get in touch with their donor. Others prefer not to, and that’s OK, too.
Before the transplant
You cannot have any correspondence with your donor before your transplant.
But you might know their age and gender – and in some cases, which country they’re from. This varies between transplant centres, so speak to your team to find out more.
After your transplant
For the first two years after your transplant, you may be able to exchange anonymous letters or cards with your donor to say thank you, or tell them how the transplant went. You don’t have to do this, and your donor doesn’t have to reply.
Unfortunately due to different rules across the world, it’s not always possible to pass on your letter.
Direct contact with your donor
If you and your donor agree, you may be able to have direct contact: exchanging names, contact details and perhaps meeting in person. As the patient, if it’s something you want, it’s up to you to suggest this. Speak to your transplant team about the next steps.
Direct contact must be two years after your last transplant or donor lymphocyte infusion (DLI), and you should be in good health. Direct contact usually follows a period of anonymous contact.
If you’re in good health and you’re not expecting to have any more DLIs or a second transplant then we may be able to help put you in touch with your donor. But please speak to your transplant team first.
If you’re under 18, a parent or legal guardian can contact your donor on your behalf.
Visit our page about international donors.
Visit our page about writing to your donor
Information published: 10/10/16
Next review due: 10/10/19